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Moms Use Pot To Relax
Busy all day, they prefer a few puffs to a few beers when it's down time.
Douglas Brown | Press-Telegram | 12/28/2005

DENVER — They carpool, read bedtime stories, and when they're away from the kids, these Denver moms sometimes retrieve the hidden baggie, pack a pipe or roll a joint, and smoke a little weed.

"It slows me down," says a 40-something mother of a 10-year-old daughter. "It's a nice, relaxing, low-key thing."

One Denver psychologist, the 46-year-old mother of a young child, smokes because it helps her find "that space that is so about me and not about being a parent."

"It helps you stop thinking," says a 37-year-old mother of two, a mildly conservative Republican who, like most of the women interviewed, smokes once or twice a week. "I either can't sleep at night because I'm restless, or I can't get in the mood with my husband because my mind is spinning."

It wasn't just the stereotypical pot smoker the 22-year-old skateboarding slacker who measures his days in bong hits who was among the 58,866 Denver residents who voted in November to pass the Alcohol-Marijuana Equalization Initiative.

These marijuana-loving mamas helped make Denver the first city to legalize small amounts of pot for private adult use. Under state and federal law, however, possession of marijuana remains illegal.

Among other things, the vote "shows just how many pot smokers there are in this city," says a 37-year-old publicist, the mother of two young children.

The moms trumpet pot as a safe, healthy alternative to alcohol. Marijuana critics say they're fooling themselves.

"They are sending those kids a message that it's OK to get high, and they intend to send that message," says Dr. Mary Holley of Mothers Against Meth-Amphetamine. The physician works to organize mothers against all illegal drugs. "That's an extremely destructive message." Through their habits, the moms tell their kids that "if he has a problem, he can just go out and get high."

Pot is not harmless, says Christian Hopfer, a psychiatry professor at the University of Colorado. "Smoking pot can cause lung cancer", he says, "and lead to addiction."

The moms say they smoked grass more frequently when they were younger. Now, most of them puff away occasionally at a party or at home on a Saturday night.

Many people are capable of smoking pot the same way many drink booze in small doses, in certain settings and not to excess, says Hopfer.

But just as alcohol breeds desperate alcoholics, those who smoke pot range from sporadic users to addicts. With both substances, Hopfer says, some users are capable of indulging without unraveling their lives.

The Denver publicist says she gets "very introspective and very thoughtful" when she smokes from her pipe.

"You smoke some weed, you are laughing," she says. "It brings me back to the times when I was so much more carefree. I'd much rather do that than sit in a smoky bar and drink liquor with my friends."

The Washington Park mother says she doesn't know anybody in her age bracket with children who doesn't smoke pot. In fact, she says, "I know very few people who don't" smoke marijuana, including chief executives and lawyers.

Another mother says she sometimes goes to parties "with moms and pot brownies. There are baby-sitters for the kids. It's OK to laugh and carry on with your girlfriends."

At the parties one mother attends, full of middle-aged professional parents, a pot contingent usually thrives somewhere in the house, if not all over the place.

Many of the moms have not disclosed their grass-inhaling secrets to their kids. The kids are too young, they say, and might not absorb the main message the moms want to send when they do get around to some frank talking: that smoking marijuana is for adults.

Young brains, the moms say, can't handle marijuana. Like sex and alcohol, the decision about whether to take a toke should be reserved for people with proper seasoning: old enough to vote, finished with high school, stepping into adulthood.

A 36-year-old, laid-off information technology professional wants her 12-year-old daughter to wait until she's 25 to even think about smoking pot.

But that hasn't stopped the north Denver mom from inhaling in front of the girl. She first got stoned around her daughter when the girl was 9 at the Burning Man festival in the Nevada desert, an annual bacchanal that attracts thousands of artists, oddballs and thrill-seekers.

"I don't really care because it's her decision," says the woman's daughter, sitting on a couch, knitting, in her home.

The girl says she has no interest in trying the drug herself, in part because, "I'm not supposed to."

Her mom says she has been routinely smoking pot since she turned 19. Her own father, she says, gave her an ounce of pot for Christmas; he had quit smoking the stuff and thought she would like it.

"I think it was a bad decision on his part," she says.

Still, she loves her weed.

Pot, she says, is "a part of who I am. It's fun. It's a way to connect. It's like having a beer with someone. It's less harmful than alcohol, it's not fattening, it's ultimately cheaper. Alcohol is so bad for your body."

If her daughter ever chooses to try a mind-altering drug, the mom hopes she elects marijuana over alcohol, a sentiment echoed by the other moms.

"I'd much rather have her smoke pot than drink because she'll be much less likely to get into bad situations," says the mother, who does a lot of smoking with her husband while in their outdoor hot tub.

As the pot-smoking moms' kids get older, how and when do the moms plan to broach the subject of their weaknesses for weed?

"That's going to be a hard one," says the psychologist. "I hope what I'll do is not lie, but talk about safety and age. I'm sorry that I started (smoking) so early (she took her first puff in seventh grade). I think I missed some important developmental stages."

None of the moms is too bothered by the specter of the police. While they all understand that smoking grass remains illegal in Denver, they also agree that the vote on Initiative 100 illustrates Denver's laissez-faire attitude toward weed.

"Now that it's passed," says one mom, "I'm more comfortable talking about it."

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smoke-a-J_4_J

That is sweet I wish my mom toked up once or twice a week. Then, if I do get caught I would not be punished soo unfairly

oneluv4boognish

Mommy still punishes you??? How old are you dude?

bassman5066

my mom does toke a few times a week. both my parents do. i just wish they were more open about it...

Mamabudz

Prof Hopfer needs to get a whee bit more education... Causes lung cancer, nope.

And to think someone is paying him to teach educate their kids.

 

freethemind

Yes marijuana can causes lung cancer anything that is inhaled as in a smoke type form can and will causes lung cancer it is forigen matter.
My ? is how many people have OD on acol. and how many people OD on the smoke thank about it.

FreeTheMind

Buzzby

That's an interesting idea but is completely unsupported by evidence, as far as I know. Do you have any references that support your position or is it just a "feeling" you have??

The fact is, research has shown that marijuana suppresses tumor formation. People who smoke both tobacco and marijuana have lower incidences of lung cancer than people who smoke only tobacco. People who smoke marijuana and no tobacco have lower incidences of lung cancer than people who smoke nothing at all.

killer12382

"Pot, she says, is "a part of who I am. It's fun. It's a way to connect. It's like having a beer with someone. It's less harmful than alcohol, it's not fattening, it's ultimately cheaper. Alcohol is so bad for your body."

I got to argue the point about fattening. You'll put on some weight after you've murdered that bag of potato chips during a munchie attack.

Using a vaporizer gets rid of the cancer causing agents in marijuana when its burned.

oneluv4boognish

Okay...now if i remember right from school...it's the carcinogens that cause the cancer...they are in smoke...now that's cigarettes. Does MJ smoke not have carcinogens in it?

island

I smoke pot with my dad and it brings us together and relaxes us just the same as a beer or two, it's so relaxing to indulge in tolerance.