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jarvolt

Hey, I just decided to sign up here now after browsing these forums for a few months. This isn't really the type of community I'd like to be overly active in, seeing as it's just so massive, but it seems to be a great place to turn for advice on weed-related matters. I'll post a bit here and there, but I don't even post that much anymore on another forum that I've frequented for six years now. Anyway, a little about me. I'm 20, not extremely social, and generally have less-than-mainstream interests. My favorite bands are The Mars Volta, Muse, Pink Floyd, Radiohead, Porcupine Tree, Mindless Self Indulgence, The Killers, among many others, with progressive rock as my favorite genre, but I like a large variety of music. I'm big into video games, and am a firm believer that the age of 2D games is not over (just look at the Metal Slug and Castlevania series as great examples that approach perfection in 2D, while the 3D games that came out for both really sucked). I do love my 3D action/platformers, though. But enough about all that, I think I've proven quite well to you all that I'm a huge nerd.


Okay, so I don't want to be bothered to create another thread, so I'll post this here, the reason I decided to sign up tonight.

I've always had an issue with taking the initiaive on things, long before I started smoking marijuana (which has only been for a couple years now, actually). I've dropped out of two colleges (which, I know, is really pathetic) and still have yet to get my license. I've also never had a real job. Right now my parents are still in the process of moving, and for awhile my mom, my brother, and I stayed with my aunt because she lives alone and my brother is finishing school at the same high school he started at. Anyway, my mom caught me smoking pot in my aunt's bathroom, which I know was a stupid thing to do, but I felt I was making too much noise by going outside at night and I didn't want to sound suspicious. So my mom told my aunt, and they were both extremely pissed. My mom then takes my stash away from me, which had a considerable amount of weed and a nice glass pipe. If I wasn't stoned at the time I probably would have stood up to her and refused to give it to her, but I was just in too much shock to really do much of anything. So she goes on with the reasons why I shouldn't be doing this, some of which were fair arguments (the fact that I don't have the money to spend on this stuff) and other obviously not-so-fair arguments (she's concerned about how it would affect my health). Now what's happening is I'm being made to live in the new house with my dad, even though the place isn't 100% finished and we have no internet, cable TV, not to mention the power's always going out because it's the fucking middle of nowhere. Meaning I'm even cut off from my friends back at home, which is over two hours away. Now, maybe my priorities are a little slanted, but I want my weed back first, because that cost me quite a bit of money. With 4/20 upon us, what better time to ask for it back? I'm reasonably confident my mom did not throw everything out (can't be sure, though) beause she is at least somewhat open-minded concerning these types of things. I mean, she says she's pro-legalization, but on the other hand buys into all the propaganda on how dangerous marijuana is supposed to be. So, assuming she did NOT throw everything out (I cringe whenever I consider that she did), how do I go about convincing her to give it back to me? I want to do this as delicately as possible, though, because she's ill (after a few years the doctors still have not diagnosed her with anything, but she has very little energy), and stress only worsens her condition. How can I be reasonable about this?

Oh, and thanks for taking the time to read all that; I just needed to get all that out there and hopefully recieve some insights that will help me.

 

racin36er

#1 welcome to the forum. i know you said you dont post often on other forums you frequent, but neither have i, and i find myself addicted to this website, like the anti-pot people seem to think we are to marijuanna. this isnt just a marijuanna forum, the people here are awesome, the conversation is always intellegent and interesting, and entertaining at that.

#2, with regards to your situation. i'm not sure the nature of you're mom's illness, nor will i bother to ask as its none of my business anyways -- however if both you and her know that stress worsens her condition, i firmly advise against it. a) its just unethical to put someone through something that you know will make them sicker or feel even more shitty, for your own wants. b) chances are, shes going to become even more irritable, for the very fact that she obviously doesnt condone you using it, and that she knows that YOU know it'll make her condition worsen temporarily.

i would try to find a way to stay in town for the weekend, maybe with a friend who does smoke the herb. just try to find another way around the situation. i'm not sure what to say about confronting her about the confiscation and all -- i've never had to do that myself. i would advise just trying to find another way around it, an alternative method so to speak.

good luck with that though man. i'm dry this year too due to moving, cant smoke as the place i'm moving to and the job i'm moving for does drug testing as part of interviews, so i dont want to risk losing a great job just becuase of pot. anyways, take 'er easy, visit often -- you'll come to like the place over time.

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Horsebackrider

Welcome to the lounge

About your situation - IMO, she was right to take your stash. You are living under her roof (well, your aunts), therefore should be abiding by her rules (whether you like it or not). When I come home from college, I respect my mom's rules to not smoke in the house or around her. Especially if your mom is ill, you wouldn't want to stress her out.

Anyway, if you are really intent on getting it back, try to bring it up in a normal conversation, just don't bashing her with facts, and try to be open-minded about her opinions (even though they may be flooded with propaganda). She only wants the best for you. Do some research (there's a ton of good information on these boards) about marijuana and tell her why you smoke it.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn...052501729.html
^ That article might be helpful - it's a study that finds no cancer-marijuana connection.

Good luck with your mom - you know her better than any of us, so hopefully everything works out

~Jeans~

Requesting your stash back doesn't have to be a stressful situation. I would simply apologize for not following the rules in your Aunt's house. Let her know in the future you will respect her wishes in that respect but you would like your stash back. You may even want to remind her that you won't smoke around her either. Don't mention the cost of it to her though because you could give her an opening to chew ya for spending money on it to begin with. It is important though not to push it if her immediate reaction is to get irritated. Just a suggestion. Welcome by the way...I'm sure we'll see ya around the arcade.

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Jeans

"Simplicity is the ultimate sophistocation"

jarvolt

Well, my worst fears came true, and everything is gone. I really thought I knew my mom better than this, but there's nothing I can do now. The conversation didn't go very well, and there is absolutely no convincing her that I should be allowed to smoke pot. She even threatened to put me in a shelter, swear to god. I think there is just too much of a disconnect between us. I'm going to try and see if I can stay with a friend until I can make it on my own, though I don't know if that will really pan out. I know it'll be asking a lot to stay with a friend, but I'll obviously pay rent, which means I need to find a job right away because my savings are almost gone. The money situation is reeeally shitty right now. This decision isn't just about pot though, just to make everything clear... there are a lot of reasons why I can't stand to live with my parents or anyone else in my family any longer.

Oh, also. Thanks for the warm welcome, everyone. I don't know how often I'll have access to the internet over the next few months, but I'll visit this site when I can.

 

~Jeans~

At least you tried and that's all you can do. Maybe she'll come around some day. In the meantime though I wish the best of luck with the living situation and job hunt. Keep your head up things will work out okay.