rockorabbi

Hi there people. It appears that the daughter of a friend is going to fail yet another treatment program for anorexia nervosa. The kid, 23, is approaching the point of no-return. When I suggested that she try cannabis since it would calm her daughter without all of the real dangers of valium and others, and also trigger some hunger, the father at first laughed but then asked me for guidance. In fact, he later told me that his daughter is open. So I turn to you for assistance as I'm here in Jerusalem and they are there in Brooklyn: who do they turn to?

rockorabbi

sterbo

Anorexia is an extremely complex issue.
While cannabis may be of value, (as you suggest) I hope your friend's daughter has some family members, close friends etc. that have a lot of patience.
Some kind of intervention might help but ultimately the person suffering has to be able to find the path themselves before they are ready to let go.
She will need a lot of kindness and support - unconditionally - to make her way to the surface.
Most of all she will need acceptance of her true self without judgment.
Years ago I helped someone I love work through anorexia and more importantly, the underlining issues at it's core. Many years passed - traumatic and frustrating, laced with anger, pain, indifference and endless patience.
Happy to say she pulled herself out and to this day is only just 'a little bit worse for wear'.

Bottom line: she has to reach deep inside and make the shift herself.
Trust her and most of all Love Her.....

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rockorabbi

Absolutely, patience is needed. There is an absolute deficit (bankrupcy) of patience in this woman's life. This is a family disorder and she is the end point of seriously disturbed family. Unfortunately though I am trying to help her play the hand of cards that she has been dealt. Along with all of the spiritual, social, and psychological work that must be "worked", she is still connected to a body. The body may be of some use here (as opposed to freaking her out about weight and appearance) so I'd also like to play that card. Cannabis seems a logical choice. It's calming and it may help her create a different relationship with food. It's probably less dangerous than whatever psych meds that might possibly be prescribed to her. She is willing to use cannabis while she won't use meds. And it's obviously less dangerous than dying (which she may be heading towards anyway).

sterbo

Like I said before, " While cannabis may be of value, (as you suggest)"......

So, by all means. I wish you all the best...

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