HydroChronic

it seems to me that all anyone is looking for these days is sex...what happened to high school sweethearts getting married and staying married throughout their lifetimes?....most of the guys in my school are just out for some "poon"...which pisses me off!...they treat girls like shit...and quite frankly im sick of it...maybe if they all just smoked a bowl or 2 before hand they would see that women are a thing of beauty and not a possession...and look beyond their outter appearance...and start seeing them for who they are on the inside...i am always afraid to tell a girl she looks lovely or beautiful because i am afraid she will just think im trying to get her in bed...but truly i am not...but i do wonder what happened to true love..if there is such a thing anymore....idk just my thoughts...

troublemaker_42

Lover exists, but its anm illusion that its easy to find. Love is somehting special, and to find true love, you MUST be patient. I found my true love only weeks after telling myself that I gave up on relationships. In october, we'll have been together 9 years. We weren't HS sweethearts however, and quite frankly, I'm quite happy about that fact. My personal belief is that marrying your HS sweetheart is oftentimes a mistake. I know I'd have always been curious about what was out there if I had married my first serious GF. HS is like preschool for relationships.....you simply aren't prepared for the "real world" of relationships at that point. It gives you an idea of what real relationships are like, but only a vague one. Once you are out on your own, with more freedoms and life experiences, you'll see what I'm talking about. Enjoy high school ,have some fun, but don't get caught up in thinking you need to find "the one" right now. Love is out there, but its not going to fall in your lap, and chances are, your first real relatinship isn't going to last forever, so get those kinds of ideas out of your head. The harder you look, the more elusive love will be. Sometimes, you have to quit trying so hard, and then things just naturally happen. When I hooked up with my wife for the first time, I'll openly admit it had very little to do with "love" or thinking she was "the one". We hooked up becasue there was some initial attraction, but not because either one of ever even contemplated the fact we'd be dating the next week, let alone being married 5 years later down the road! Short version- Don't try to force finding love. Enjoy it when you doscover it, but don't appraoch every relationship with the idea she mightr just be the one for you

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HydroChronic

yeah i understand what youre saying about HS relationships...and i thought i found the one but she broke my heart...and i realized she wasnt the one...were still really good friends though...and now i am doing it again with another girl...shes into most of the stuff i am...only she doesnt do as many off-topics as i do/try...and she doesnt really approve of some of the stuff i do but oh well my choice...but i am trying to not fall into the love spell again that i had cast over me for the past yr...cause it only leads to a heartbreak in the end...but what do you think about HS guys only trying to get some action and not try and be serious and mature about their relationship..and guys who treat their girlfriends and girls in general like shit?

troublemaker_42

Its part of the game. Its always been that way, to a point. Back 40 years ago, when my Dad was a senior in HS, there were guys who cared nothing more about a girl than whether she puts out or not. Today is no different. That doesn't mean YOU have to behave that way. However, it's only natural that some teenage males are going to let their hormones control thier brains (and other parts of their anantomy) and I doubt it will ever change. Just be yourself, and if the girls don't come running, don't give up. Don't change how you act or who you are in order to impress someone else. Don't make someone fall for an illusion of who you are. Believe me, putting up an act can only work so long before she starts to see the real you. I've never had much time for people who couldn't like me for who I am. I learned quite awhile back to basically say "Fuck 'em if they don't like me". Since then, I've shed many acquiantences, friends, and "party buddies". I look at it like this....i may have drastically fewer numbers entered in my cell phone these days, but I know I could call basically ANY of the (non work related) numbers in there, and know that the person on the other end will be willing to help me out in any way I could need them to. With friends, or girlfriends, etc....I'll take quality over quantity any day. Just be patient, and don't run before you learn to walk. I know its easy to get wrapped up in relationships when your younger, but seriously.....don't take the relationship too seriously. You may think you've found the one, but the reality is that its just pretty unlikely to be true. Remember, life is like a restaurant....if you order only one meal every time you visit, you're never going to experience the delights of any of the other menu items. I guess I'm trying to steer you towards this-- You need to find some middle ground between you and the type of guys you despise. Don't go out and use girls just to get some, but don't tie yourself down with the thinking that you need to be looking for "the one" to the point you're not enjoying yourself anymore. Its HS....theres nothing wrong with kissing a girl here and there just for FUN..... not every makeout session is going to lead to a relationship, but thats not necessarily a bad thing. Go out, have some fun, and don't be afraid to order something different than you're used to...you might be pleasantly surprised, and find a new fav food, so to speak.

SmasheR

Great post TM, alot of excellent points here. Trying to marry your HS sweetheart really is just a recipe for disaster. Girls and guys alike in HS just aren't emotionally ready for that type of commitment or relationship. Really, HS is just a training ground for the real world. And sure your gonna get hurt and hurt people, that's just how it works. The idea is that you learn enough from your mistakes in HS that when your finally ready and find the right person, you know enough what your doing not to make them again.

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watto86

lol. You sound like me about a year ago.
I'd say give it a year or two, tops, and your opinion will completely change.

HydroChronic

why will my opinion change?...when i am 19 my opinion will change because of what reason?...

watto86

I think you're opinion is going to go in one of two different directions.
I think you'll either become one of those people who thinks true love is more prevalent than you first considered. Or you're going to be one of those guys who as you put it, "treat girls like shit." Based on what you're likely to experience.

Bl4ck3n3D

Experience.

HydroChronic

i dont see what will change because of experience.....