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sterbo

So true, so sad,
thing is, that's life. Nothing to do with anything but,
girls and boys never seem to leave it on the playground. They smile their secret smile (and it comes no better) and get their 'timeout'.
Sooner or later they want their toys back and OMG,
how it hurts...

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Zeked

I think that sometimes it is just easier to get advice about really personal things from a group of people that you don't really know. This way you won't hold back anything that might be vital to helping people give you advice because you would not be worried about having to see that person again or anything like that. I mean, I am willing to bet that I am probably never going to meet anybody on this board in person. That is going to make it a lot easier for me to talk to you about certain things than I might be about talkin to somebody that I have to see again. Does that make sense?

I am not at all trying to down talk your friend's bro but even if you lose your virginity to the wrong girl, it doesn't have to end up the way that this ended up man. I mean, and again no offense to your friend's bro, you have to see the other person for what they really are and just cut your losses at some point. From the sounds of this situation, these two broke up and got back together many times over what i would guess to be at least a couple of years. No matter who the person is, you have to draw a line in the sand at some point. I lost my virginity to someone that i was very in love with and after dating for a couple of years I thought she was a psychotic bitch so we broke up. It happens. The fact that we broke up and even had some ugly times in the immediate aftermath doesn't make me regret having waited for somebody that I truly loved. It will always mean that I get to feel like losing my virginity was something really special and I am happy about that.

lMarijuana lMan

Hey I forgot about this thread and suppose I could give an update to my situation (if anybody cares )

Still a virgin :l but have been around the block a few times this summer, not sure if that's a good thing or not.. anyways one of the girls I fooled around with at one of my party's this summer wanted to have sex, we were in my room, she asked if I had I condom, I did.. but I was very drunk and therefore wasn't even that hard when the time came

We both just kind of got out of the mood after that and went downstairs.

Remember I was pretty drunk and probably was grinning the whole time we were together, but when it was all said and done, I wasn't really thinking and said "well maybe I'll have better luck next time"... with her replying "next time?" haha!

We're pretty good friends and always flirted at party's and stuff (She's 17, I'm almost 19) so I'm assuming she was joking, we've been talking since and now we're going to my cottage together with 2 other friends (guy/girl).
These other two are just friends (as far as I know)... and we may have more friends coming down the second night we're there.

Maybe this will be the time it happens, who knows... I'm kind of worried it may happen again, so maybe I should just drink a little (or none?), and just smoke up.. or is that a bad idea too?

If anyone has any advice/comments I'd be happy to read them.

PS- I've messed around with this other girl a few times this summer and she is pretty obsessive, texts me a few times a day, just started calling today (I didn't answer).. but I'm pretty sure I could bang her anytime I had the opportunity (tonight if I wanted, in the woods or something ).. but I don't know if I should just give it up to her, people call her a slut and shit, but she's actually a pretty nice girl.. whatever.


End of rant.

cj117

It might seem counterproductive, but it helps if you act like you don't want it, but make actions that suggest you do. For example, if a girl sits down next to you, immediately put your arm up and either around the chair or her. Then make no mention of it and act like it's completely casual. This will get the girl wondering, thinking...

And when the time comes, you want to take it EXTREMELY SLOW. Like I'm not even kidding slow... the girls dig that and you will too. Foreplay is best done with the mentality that sex is the least important part. Never go in straight for the kill.. heh. If you work your way around all the important parts (not directly on), and turn her on like crazy, the sex part will blow your mind.

Sex is much better when it is done with someone you care about. It doesn't have to be your 'true love' or whatever, just someone who you know you could talk about it with after you do it and not feel very uncomfortable.

I lost my virginity when I turned 21... and guess what, I'm still 21. I've had sex maybe like 6 times, with the same girl before we broke up. Don't feel bad, these other posters are and were in the same boat as you. As long as you don't make it out to be a big deal, and relax, and not FOCUS SO MUCH ON IT, it'll be easier to handle when it finally does happen.


Just remember.. Less pressure = More Pleasure

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Killerchron

Whenever you do your thing, just make sure you respect her.

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Isirap

if that situation happens, make sure your drunk, because if she is and your not, it might look bad. Or maybe she wont be drunk? Tell her straight up, if she isnt down then boot her out of your cottage

blondie0420

You have your whole life to have really great, mind-blowing sex. So what's the rush? You don't need to rush something that you've got your whole life to do. There is no deadline on sex, no door closes never to be opened again if you don't lose your virginity by a certain point (barring extreme circumstances, which will not happen to you).

You don't want to do something you're going to regret later on. Just take it slow, spend some time with a girl that you have some feelings for and let things unfold naturally. I don't think your first time should be with just any girl who was willing to spread her legs for you.

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macphearsome

yeah it sounds to me like you're still rushing and going for the home run. If you are going into this with the "strategy" of "should I be drunk, or should she be drunk, or how drunk should we be or should we just smoke" then you're really stretching for it aren't you?

i dunno tho. do what you have to do to be happy... just don't do anything stupid and don't do anything mean

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CRIMSONxSOLDIER

Personally I think my virginity is an important thing to me. It's a precious moment that I want to share with someone I love and want to be with for the rest of my life, ya know? I dont want to waste that special moment on just any old person. So jsut because you're 19 and havent gotten laid yet doesn't mean anything. You should be proud of your virginity.

And that's alot comming from a 16 year old boy

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cj117

I can't speak for everyone but I would go so far as to say that's a bit much.
I mean it's only sex, it's a human INSTINCT.. it's not exactly a rare feat (though with today's standards of a mate.. maybe it is)
People that are proud of their virginity are the same who probably make the mistake of putting the "pussy on a pedestal" and make sex more of an issue than it really is. Which, well, it is, I suppose.. they say that sex is like oxygen, it's not a big deal unless you're not getting any.
I'm fine without having regular sex, but that's probably just because I don't know what it's like on the other side of the coin.