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Merry-juana

I got busted by my grandmother and she is stressed as hell right now. I know there is no way to convince her pot is ok but is their anything that can help me convince her that it is my decision and I will not make her accountable for it. She is probably not going to do much to me, but I just want some peace in the house, and I want her off my back. She is worried because I am the third child she raised to become a pot smoker, and the other two pretty much fucked up there lives and she thinks it is because of the pot, I just want her to stop worrying and screaming, my grandfather won't be able to handle the stress.

Edit: Now I think she might actually do something bad, I do not know what but I have to figure out what I am going to do. Also, how long do you think it will take for her to get used to me smoking, if at all?

 

Merry-juana

What, 26 views and NOTHING? Please guys, I need some help.

sterbo

Merry,
How old are you? And can you give us a synopsis of your lifestyle?
Do you work, go to school, support yourself etc.
What about your parents?
Your siblings that you refer to; you say they fucked up. What if anything is the relationship of their messing up to the use of marijuana in your eyes or that of your family's?
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Merry-juana

First, I live with my grandparents (since I was 6 DAYS old.), and I am talking about their children, not my siblings.
My grandmother is an overstressed control freak that worries too much. My grandfather is pretty old-school but he is cooler about things. I am 15 years old but I have the maturity to make important decisions about my life (they said so themselves) and I did think through for a LONG while before I started to smoke (8 months to be exact.) and I did research and this was my decision and I decided to take this risk and the consequences (good or bad) because of my decision.

haskins69

Well in my opinion[and I'm nobody] I still need to know what she's said and the fact's of the "bust", But take it from me 46yr's old been smoking since age 11 ,since she raized you your more her child than grand child and she feel's some what reasponceble [for the fact you smoke ,kind like it's her fault ] so if she's set against pot then I know no word's to change her mind !!! I been fighting my folk's for35 years no change in their feeling's about pot except that after all this the they will admit it my not be as bad asthey once believed but since it's still Illegal here in Illinois in all way's they still feel it's bad because your breaking the law !!! took 35 yr's to get them that far !!! and I've been in the service ,rasied my daughter by myself and I am a elecricion !! so even if good the old believe the way they believe just as you feel the way you do!! all the effect of how they were raised , meaning freinds and morals of each generation , yours and their's !! but good luck with it though !! on the brighter side once I had a plant about 12" tall and mom did take it and grew It on the dinning room table till it was 3 foot tall and budding , then killed it , murderer!!!!!

 

Herbania

I agree with Haskins, probably nothing you do or say will change their minds, especially if they blame pot for the failings of their other children. If your grandpa is the cooler of the two try to talk to him alone and present information from NORML and like places. I don't think you will be successful though from what you told us. Even if they think it's safe, they will still worry about you getting busted by cops.

So, you can: 1. keep it up openly, be vocal about your belief and accept what they do as the price of making a stand(whine,yell,restriction, maybe send you to rehab) 2. Sneak around, which is probably what most of us did who started in high school(this creates a lot of lies, something that could hurt your relationship with them in the long term)or.. 3. you can quit and take it up again in 3 years when you're not under their roof(it's not going anywhere, it'll be there when you reach 18)

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Merry-juana

I think with my grandmothers caracteristics, and the advise I just got, I think the ideal way to deal with this is, to tell her that I love her, and I will never do anything to heart her, and I made a choice and I want to stick with that choice, since I beleave it is the right one. I will take full responsibility of my actions and I want you not to hinder me in my quest for maturity. Then I will just keep it quite from then on, not to tell her I still smoke, but not to tell her that I do still smoke, so that she won't get irritated by it and forget it.

Sofa King

First off, IMO your too young to be smoking MJ(thats my opinion, I'm not going to argue it)
That being said, You say your going to take full responsibility for your actions. Easier said than done. Your a minor, your living in HER HOUSE, she is your legal guardian. Therefore SHE is also responsible for your actions, If you fuck up she will have to deal with the consequences. As far as getting her to understand, it's hard to convince older uneducated (about MJ) people that MJ is not the demon they've led to believe it is their whole lives. It's a drug, Most older people group all drugs together. Heroin, Cocaine, MJ etc, there all just evil drugs no difference. Plus you add the fact that her other children have had problems that she blames on MJ. Your not going to change her mind. Your living in her house and you need to abide by her rules.
Good Luck.

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Killerchron

Best advice you're going to get. I agree 100%......Really, is getting high more important to you than having a trusting relationship with someone you love?

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shibshib

I'm really getting tired of reading about all these young teens who think they have the ability to make such important decisions regarding their health.

I think I need to russel up some biology articles or something and explain how the human brain works and that no 15 year old has the capability to understand subjects which require critical, adult-thinking.

TO ANYONE READING THIS THAT IS 20 YEARS OLD OR YOUNGER:

Your brain isn't finished. Give it some time.