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heumy

Hi everyone, I'm new to the forums, and I have only been blazing for a few months. At school, I hang out with a group of good friends who do not smoke. I also chill with the stoners, who I blaze with. My friends know that I blaze, and they do not approve of it. I feel like I am slowly separating from my real friends, and I am heading down the path to becoming a stoner. My question is: should I continue to chill with the stoners, or should I reconnect with my friends and wait until university? By the way, I do really like weed and feel like continuing.

 

SimpleGreen

Both. If you like the "stoners" keep chilling and toking with them, but continue to be the same person that your original friends have grown to like. If a distance grows between you and your friends simply because they don't like the fact that you smoke weed, then they aren't really worth your time. Be whoever you want to be, and figure out who will like you for that.

Mikeebud

Tell ur real friends that you quit. Or accept you for who you are. And blaze with stoners.

If your "Real" Friends, Where your real friends, They would accept you for who you are, and not What you do with your spare time.

shibshib

To be fair, in school I was friends with the stoners and pro-marijuana... but officially I didn't hang out with them or anything.

I had a hard enough time with the administration without getting scrutinized extra for associating with the kids who chose to be hooligans at school.

I mean, its cool if you smoke pot and all... but if you are known as "the stoner" or "a stoner", then you might want to cut back a bit... it's just a plant.

I'd rather be known as "that fat kid" than "the stoner" to be honest.

My point is that I can't blame your friends for wanting to disassociate themselves from you. For all they know, one day they might get busted along side of you with weed and then it goes on their records and ruins their school careers. etc. etc.

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jonolikesbuster

If they're your real friends they shouldn't give up on you and either should you give up on them. I would be extremely hesitant to switch your group of friends. But then again, do whatever makes you happy.

When I was in high school I didn't smoke until the summer of sophomore year, and my friends generally disapproved. That never stopped me from smoking. I would always just downplay the situation, not smoke in their presence, and not do anything stupid because of weed (at least in front of them). This was out of respect, and when you give respect you usually receive some too. I'd hang out with the stoners once and awhile, but to be completely honest I found the bulk of them slightly dull and uninspired. I like stoners, don't get me wrong, a lot of stoners are fantastic people but in high school I got bored with them. Your real friends will most likely come around in the end anyway. If your friends hold ignorant views, enlighten them. That's the only way they're going to change. Do what feels right, be yourself, but also keep your friends in mind.

 

SpiralArchitect

Most likely your friends who are against marijuana don't understand it to begin with.

I'd say something among the lines of, 'Hey, if you don't want to be my friend. Why? Just because I made a lifestyle choice you don't agree with your going to stop being my friend for that? I'd rather you just be honest with me so I can know who my real friends are, and who are the ones judging me.'

I'd ask them why they are against it. Maybe even offer to share their first experience with you. Most likely they will eventually give it a shot later in High School or afterwards.... why not with their best friend?

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king cola

This is similar to relationships. You might have a good friend that starts dating a chick and devotes all his time to hanging out with her and stops hanging out with his friends completely. For the girls they might have a friend that goes and dates some guy and their friend stops hanging out with their friends and is all about the guy they are dating. I'm using this as an example because I know some people that are doing this to their friends right now. What they want is for their friends that are in relationships to make some time to hangout with them. Other couples have an understanding and still allow their b/f or g/f to hangout with their friends and it works around them.

In your situation this is about marijuana. Your not sure if you should pick the choice of hanging out with stoners or your friends that don't smoke. This is easy, you can continue to hangout with both groups. Maybe one weekend you chill with the stoners, other weekends you chill with your friends that don't smoke, you don't really drift apart this way. You could chill with some smokers on a friday night and chill with your other friends on a saturday night.

You can arrange it where your not cutting out any of your friends.

Merry-juana

Hell no. I am proud of my marijuana usage, and I preach it's wonders out in the open.

If someone has a problem with the fact that I smoke weed, that is there problem, I know what wonders it did for me, and without it I would have easily killed myself by now, so I preach it's wonders to all those willing to listen.

Brandon1025

I'm kinda going through the same thing as the OP. I have actually became better friends with some of my old friends from middle school and hang out more with the stoners that I was just kinda cool with before but never really hung out with.

SimpleGreen

My 2 cents on the "the stoner" thing:

Personally, I try to avoid being blatantly labled as a stoner. I'm a proud medical and recreational marijuana user, and don't try to hide it or anything, but I don't go out of my way to let people know that I smoke either. You need to stay at least a little subtle about the fact that you use marijuana. It's just the smart thing to do. I mean, it's an illegal substance. Being an obvious, stoner stereotype potentially puts you at risk for profiling from whatever authorities you face, be it parents, teachers, cops, or even friends in this case.