CountessBathory

Okay, everybody, I need to talk about something that's been bothering me lately. When I am dating people, I usually prefer to date guys who blaze rather than guys who don't; the truth is that pot is part of my life (probably a bigger part than it should be, but oh well), and it's important to me that the person I'm with is able to share it with me. I have met a few guys I liked who turned out to be anti-drug and I didn't end up dating them for that reason. I'm a regular pot smoker and I knew that dating someone who was opposed to it would cramp my lifestyle. Big ****ing deal, I thought! But I told this to another friend of mine and she told me this makes me a complete "addict," that I'm basing my life around pot and "need to get help." (Yeah, right.)

I know I am asking a bunch of fellow smokers, but I still want to hear what everyone thinks. Does whether or not someone smokes influence whether or not you date them? Would you date someone who tolerates pot-smoking but doesn't themselves do it, or does your mate have to be a smoker as well? Personally, I don't think wanting to date a fellow smoker makes me a hopeless "addict," but my friend didn't agree.

IndoorGanja

I'd rather date a girl who smoked weed at least occasionaly, but not a total burnout. It's not a dominating factor in whether I do end up dating her or not though.

Of course, it is a pain in the a$$ when I end up dating someone who is anti-pot. I usualy end up hiding the fact that I smoke if I really like the girl.

OverDrive

A friend of mine is dating a girl who is totally against marijuana, and he is a daily-smoker.

I'm amazed with how tolerant of her he is. She hates it when he's high and bugs him and his friends (including me) about it all the time!! She even tells him when he can and can't get toke-up. If she thinks we're high, she'll just walk up to us and say, "Are you dope-heads high again!!? Look at their eyes!! What a bunch of ****ing idiots." It gets really annoying.

SonOfAGlitch

If you were a member of The Promise Keepers would you date a militant feminist? What about vice versa?

I couldn't care less if my girl smoked weed. Of course i'd love to be able to share the experience with her, and i would never date a girl too closed minded or brainwashable to NEVER TRY, but if they don't i couldn't care less.

If they are anti pot, fine, just as long as they don't look down on me for it, whatever.

I guess the best analogy is that I'm completely and utterly against striking children or using any kind of negative reinforcement. One of my best friends not only uses negative reinforcement but spanks her children (not without warning or anything like that, and they know what warrants it, and not to excess) but she's still one of my very best friends.

Would i date her? Not if struck my kids and not if she wanted me to.

RIP JMorrison

See I hate when people say you, in plural form, base your life around pot if you want a girl/boyfriend that smokes or if you smoke daily. This is how I think of it and how I explained smoking to my mom.

I view smoking as my "sport/hobby", I guess you can call it that, some people play basketball so I'm sure they would want a girl/boyfriend that plays too so they can share it. So by you wanting a boyfriend that smokes is like a basketball player wanting a girl/boyfriend that plays basketball too, and means in no way that you are an addict.

Its absurd what people think of something once its labeled a drug. That's why I can't wait until it becomes legal and we see everyone start getting high. Like our teachers, classmates, co-workers, neighbors, Police men . Its going to be one happy world, at least I hope.

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EmperorBadger

I'd date a girl who doesn't smoke. It'd be no problem at all unless she tried to make me stop. I'd understand if, say, I smoked weed every single day or especially if smoking pot was getting in the way of more important things in my life. But, right now, I very rarely smoke on days other than weekends and often go weeks without toking. If a girl who I was dating tried to get me to stop write now, that's just her trying to control me, which I wouldn't like one bit. Or, she's just so closed minded she thinks our precious weed is evil, which is almost as bad.

Basically, if a girl wanted me to stop smoking out of genuine concern for me, it's quite all right. If she just wants to be a pain in my ass, she's history.

CountessBathory

I guess one of the main things that would make me not want to date someone who is anti-pot is the fear that they would narc on me and my friends....I have heard horror stories of this happening and it has made me very cautious.

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bo-battie

i will laugh SO HARD if that's what it says...

GiggleSmoke

Thats hillarious!

I wouldn't be able to get along with a girl that was totally anti-pot. I have a friend who is strongly anti-pot but is totally loosing his little battle. His older brother smokes it, his old best friend from grade school smokes it, most of his past girl friends or girls he wanted to date smoked it and a lot of his friends smoke it including me. he calls me a crackhead an stuff sometimes. Anyhoo from how I feel about him being anti-pot it pisses me off all this saying stoners are stupid an all that with nothing to back it up I know I wouldn't be able to get along with a girl who thought like that. If I wouldn't be able to educate her like this hard headed ignorant friend I have then I'd tell her to hit the road cuz it just annoys me.

But if a girl didn't smoke it but was ok with me smoking it then that wouldn't be a problem. Its good to have someone to keep you in check that you don't have to hide anything from. Its kinda like my friends girlfriend, she said "I don't care if you smoke but I grew up in a house where I was taught to say no to drugs so I wount partake." She's smoked with us though a couple weeks after heh heh. Another guy I know has a girl who doesn't like it but he does it anyway around her, he's a daily smoker but he's cut down for her he says.

If the girl smoked then even better, but if she just stuck around to smoke my pot then that would be a problem cuz I don't like people like that. I'm not sayin I wouldn't share but if thats was what the relationship was based on then it would be a problem.

firedoob

hmm....i usually only date smokers...what i prefer is when they smoke as much as i do, cause then i don't feel like i smoke too much weed. does that make sense? however, the guy i just started seeing rarely smokes...he's open to changing it, he just never had the connections before. it's kind of funny...he's a prep. my crowd & his just don't mix...it's like oil and water. i hate his friends but he loves mine. maybe i have a convert on my hands.