Nickkers420

OK... heres my problem. I have a girlfriend who I have been goin out with for 9 months now and at the beginning she was very anti drug. If she had known I smoked weed then, she wouldnt have gone out with me. Any way I hadnt been smoking for a while (i got busted, but thats another story). And I had talked to her about it, and brought her down from her anti-drug-ness. So I end up smokeing with some friends and she gets very pissed... very. She tells me how much it hurts her, and I don't understand it, but because I love her, I stop... Then after complaining for months I get her to try it, and this last month has been sweet... we smoke a bunch. Then yesterday, she is like "I'm quiting, it's effecting my health, at crew(rowing) sunday I couldnt stop coughing". So I said "Ok". Then she said "...and I dont want you doing it either, because it hurts me when you do it." The problem here is, that I can stand up to her, and say no, and have before. But it truely seems to hurt her, and I cant stand or understand it. So as it is, I'm not smoking and she is controling me. But I cant stand to see her hurting, so I really have no options. And by the way, my girlfriend's home life is ****ed up. Her mom beats her, tells her she's not worthy of her love, and even though it hurts me when that kinda stuff happens, she doesnt do anything to change it, thats my one card... She always expects me to change myself for the better (I already gave up alcohol for her) when she wont even talk to her priest or anything and try to sort out her own stuff. But the problem is this, since she has all this hardship in her life I really can't bear to hurt her more. What should I do................................?

~Nickkers420

P.S. I'm not gonna leave her or anything... so thats not really an option.