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bingorad

OK, I just need to get some opinions:

met this girl at uni a few weeks back, i really like being with her, great sense of humour etc... problem is she's been in a relationship since last year...they met in highschool.

the thing is, Im not one to go and ruin relationships and whatever, but then again I REALLY think we'd be good together. everytime I see her, afterwards I feel really down cuz im not satisfied just being friends. But then again if I tell her how I feel and she pushes me away, I won't even be able to be her 'friend.'

Im definately sensing chemistry between us and i'm quite sure it's reciprocated. But she hasn't mentioned about being dissatisfied in her relationship, and she has pics of him in her wallet etc...

..do I tell her how I feel or just continue being a friend, hoping that they'll break up?

I was thinking today maybe the best thing is just to ask her if SHE has feelings for me?

dunno - im lost on this one

 

FoeTwinny

Well, i've also been in this situation before and I've found the best thing to do is move on. Sorry, but if you were her boyfriend and some guy started hittin on your girlfriend I'd imagine you wouldn't be to happy! Then again, you said you sensed chemistry between the two of you. Maybe your feelings are mutual. It's hard to say because I've obviously never met her or you. All in all, I'd say leave it alone. It's just not polite to be workin the george (haha forget who made that one up, but it's a classic) on someone else's girl.

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Beatlejuice

I'm going to second Foetwinny's opinion. I'm in the same situation, I've loved the same girl ever since the second I saw her in grade 9. Hasn't subsided at all in over 6 years. Anyway, she's been with the same guy for about 5 years. And unfortunately that guy is not me. You should not tell her how you feel while she is still in this relationship. I wouldn't rule her out, but you'll just have to be patient and see what happens in their relationship. That's what I'm doing, even though it gets more hopeless every day and chances are they'll end up getting married. I would suggest you do what you said and continue being a friend, hoping that they'll break up. Good luck with it. A 1 year relationship has much better odds than a 5 year one.

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IAmTheWalrus212

Telling someone that you like them usually results in awkward situations. Don't do it. Then you'll wish you had your regular friendship back. The only time it is good to tell is if you are ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE (as in having a video of her professing her love to you) that she feels the same way. Then it's the sappy music and the make out session while the camera pans back and the credits come on.

You may want to tell her, but try not to. Sorry

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Rusty_Cage

It's much more likely for a man to misinterpret friendly behavior from a woman as attraction than it is vice-versa. I wouldn't be very forward, but I would be extremely suggestive. That is a very non-harmful way to figure out if she feels the same. If she says some carp about her boyfriend, then just move the conversation on quickly.

If you wanna get sneaky, you could try manipulating her opinion of her boyfriend. I mean, if she complains about him, always side with her. I don't mean lying that you saw him making out with another chick, but some people try to pull that. How much do you know about this other guy? If he's a cool kid, then just wait it out. If you hear stuff about him, try using it to your advantage. "I'm just telling you what I heard..."

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Beatlejuice

I don't think you should raise the topic of her boyfriend. But if she complains about him then go along with her and see if it can be converted into stuff she doesn't like about him. If you raise the issue it would become pretty obvious what you are trying to do.

bingorad

OK guys thanks a lot. Im gonna wait it out and see what happens.

cheers

QuintanaRoo

hahaha bingo your a funny sad man move on, I mean what your in you early 20's sh*t man its the time of partying and dancing not to be wasting your time on some girl who has a boy friend.... Go to a Tijuana night club and I guarantee you you will never look at her again.

zoltron

Yeah great idea, go to a club in TJ & you'll never look at ANY girl the same way. You must live around San Diego then, Quint.
Anyway, I'd pretty much forget that girl romantically. I hate being the bearer of bad news, but 9 times outta 10, chicks that are involved with another dude are going to stay that way. Well, I'm sure I don't have to give you the same old cliche..."There's plenty of crabs in the sea."

Larmer

Haven't heard it put that way before. Seems more like advice on safe sex to me!!!

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