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thejedipimp

Hi. This is my first post.

I live in Vancouver, B.C (we have pretty killer bud) and I smoke a few times per week. I think I may have a low tolerance because I get really blazed and don't feel like saying anything.

We all know that some people can talk a lot when they're blazed and others just become all quiet. I'm usually a very outgoing guy, but when I blaze something happens. I can't think of anything to say, I avoid phone calls, and I feel uneasy around my friends (especially if in a group). I definitely can't hit on girls while stoned. It's almost like weed is triggering some kind of social anxiety thing where I'm all paranoid about what other people think. I just don't feel like doing or saying anything when high. I feel tense.

This is getting long-winded so I'm just going to ask my questions:

Do you think the fact of whether or not someone gets paranoid says something about their underlying personality? Do you find that people who are able to socialize and act normal while stoned are somehow different than those who get all paranoid and sketchy after smoking?

I dunno, I guess the reason why I'm asking is I'm wondering if I have some deep-seated psychological problem that weed just brings out.

 

dopenose

That's wierd man. I get quiet sometimes but usually its because i'm spacing out. most kids i smoke with are talkative unless a good song is playing or something trippy is going on. hitting on girls is kind of hard sometimes. sometimes i'm just too high to carry on a conversation with a girl.

BLEW

Hi Jedi, good post there.........sums me up at certain times of my life..

well i have to say that it has alot to do with how you judge yourself and the things that bother you about yourself.......well for me it is..

Like if im with a friend of mine that i always smoke with its always cool and im at ease and very chatty, but ive been in places with strangers and i sometimes get a little consumed about how im acting and what they think of me. I find when i focus too much on myself i can sometimes think that everyone else is too, when in reality there really not.

Its like when i drink alot of off topic beverages my brain isnt really concentrating and working as fast as it does on weed so i become more uninhibited with who i am, what i look like and what i think others think of me. Im more outgoing and usually very happy and funny.

People say weed makes you dumb, they get this from stereotypical facial expressions stoners have, their eyes and stuff like forgetfulness of stoners and other countless things but i know for me it makes me creative and also makes me think into certain things a little more than when im not under the influence.

Sometimes it can get me concentrating too much on what a stranger is thinking when they see me. So say i see a hot girl, i could start thinking of how tired i look from lack of sleep and how someone so hot could never be attracted to tired looking person.

Let me break it down a lil more, when your tired you dont look your best which means your probably not feeling your best and then this whole thing plays on in your head and before you know it your self conscious and paranoid............or i am. Im so glad i dont have acne anymore, that was also an image issue for me when i was younger...

So staying quiet draws less attention to yourself and thats usually what u want when u are concentrating on yourself and dont want any part of your issues brought up around others.

Todays media and the acceptable look and behavior everyones supposed to have doesnt help this. I know all about myself and my body and sometimes a person overlooks what you think is the worst thing about you but you yourself are super concentrating on it when it isnt even an issue with the interaction between the both of u and its only an issue with you because your on a drug that can make things work like this in your head.

I used to be real bad about this and getting high wasnt as fun as it is nowadays but ive learnt to get high only when i feel like it and also not to sweat the small things as much. Ive also realised that the time we have on this planet is precious and i simply dont have time for how super hottie thinks about how i look and interact in the world.

Do i really care what this person thinks of how i look........no...........why?..........because in the grand scheme of things i dont need acceptance from this person, they are just as alone with themselves as everyone else is alone with themselves. They are as fragile as any other humans life, and they too are dying 1 minute at a time...

Accepting who you are is the key i believe. As you can tell my past paranoia came from my image. Luckily i got over it and now i enjoy myself and life alot more. Funny thing is that ive met so many unattractive people that are outgoing and seem totaly happy with themselves.

Have u ever heard the term, ignorance is bliss? Maybe what it means for me is brains that arent thinking a 100 miles a minute dont have as many issues because they simply never come around.

Well i myself am a thinker before the weed even becomes an issue so that doesnt help if you have problems with yourself, wether it be looks, financial problems, age, love, death etc.

The best thing ive learnt about myself is that im happier when im in my own comfort zone. Ok my zone of comfort comes from things like the bills are paid, im on good terms with my family and girlfriend, i have a job, money is comming in etc. If i dont manage and have control over the things that disrupt my comfort zone i find it causes me to stress over these things when im high.........and brings me down...

anyway this is just me and what ive learned from myself over the past 29 years, ive rambled on way to long....

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Up In Smoke

You know, you have nothing to feel awkard about. People react diferently to certain things. It also may depend on the weed your getting. Indica can give you the very "stoned" feeling. Meaning you just want to sit on your couch, well, like a stone. Marijuana effects your mind. You may just have the mind set of being really relaxed, and thats all you may want to do, and its every peaceful that way; I like it.
I have a friend, His name is Robert. We call him "Silent Bob" - this guy doesnt make a single sound when hes stoned. Hes sorta quiet too when sober, but geez, when hes drunk, I cannot stop laughing hes soo funny. On the other side, I got a friend who has a very gentle attitude. Not very talkative, but man, get some weed in him and hes yellin and screaming at the top of his lungs - having the time of his life.
My suggestion is to get ahold of a "Sativa" strain of cannabis, its the more Up-ity High. The kind that can make you laugh for no apparent reason; the kind that makes you want to do somthing. But hey, Like I said, Its all about your disposition.
You said you wer from Beautiful British Columbia. Im totally inlove with that place, im moving there asap. You cant go wrong there. Give me a shout sometimes, Id love to chat, you seem like a cool guy. Take It Easy, Peace

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thejedipimp

First off, thanks for posting such good replies, especially BLEW for writing something so in-depth. I didn't know what to expect when posting about this topic.

BLEW: i think it does come from an image thing, because i did have a bad acne problem many years ago, and i was always so self-conscious. thank god i don't have that **** anymore and things are all good now. like you, i am a thinker. people would tell me "just stop thinking about it so much. stop measuring everything" and i know it's true. however, old habits are hard to break... yada yada, so i'm going to force myself to be more outgoing when i'm high. i've also thought that since weed is a drug and has different effects on everybody, maybe it just affects me in a different way. i do like blazing - i've smoked a ****load of weed in my life - but it will never be my drug of choice. i prefer alcohol, which leads me to believe i may have some mild social anxiety thing that makes me think too much about what other people think of me.

not trying to be self-inflating or anything, but i've got so many friends, go to school, know a lot of hot girls, and am running my own business -- but when i'm high, i'm just a different person. i'm so much more inhibited by my own fears and perceptions. i feel overwhelmed. i suppose i'm just afraid that the anxiety i feel when i'm high somehow links back to some inadequacy(sp) in me or at least some kind of insecurity i haven't dealt with yet. i always thought that people who are comfortable with themselves when high must be really confident people with no self-consciousness. of course, it could just be that weed affects them differently. i feel that weed takes away my "edge" in way that prevents me from being lively and firing on all usual cylindars. on alcohol or speedy ****, let's say, i'm definitely on the ball and on top of things.

Up in smoke: i've definitely had better laughing trips with "upper weed." i feel stimulated and can actually think of things to say and do. some other weed just makes me sketchy and super retarded stoned. i wouldn't mind blazing some sativa right now. haha. i'm definately going to give you a shout. i love showing people my city (especially the dark underbelly)

thanks to those who posted. anyone else can post too... i'd like to hear some other vantage points.

peace

 

Center

very good post...

i too get silent when im stoned, sometimes. it does feel like some kind of social anxiety bug that hits you instantly. when i blaze with a couple of close friends though, im happy and talkative etc. no need to be nervous around friends right? alot of times though, you could be silent because you're thinking about something, im sure your stoner buddies recognize that...they've been through it too =p.


eh, all i can say is that when you're stoned, you tend to become a little more self conscious, some people anyway...worrying about what others are thinking about them, what their actions really mean--its just the herb, don't even entertain such thoughts.

peace

imported_feble

im the exact same..usually outgoin but wen high just off in my own world. Not really scared to talk to other ppl...i just dont choose to because i like the high better when i enjoy it and kinda keep it to myself...yea its hard 2 explain but i think were about the same with this.

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imported_eclectica82

to continue BLEW's train of thought from a long time ago, about caring what other people think of you:

my mom summed it up best, i think, when she said, "people really aren't thinking about you at all. it's kind of conceited to think that they would be."

huh.

clec

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wakDbuds

hehehe paranoia is so funny, i getit real bad when im too stoned and out of my familiar environemnt, with people i have never met before coming and going... freaks me right out i always seem to be one step behind the conversation and cant think fast enough to say anything relevant, so i sit there like a wasted idiot.

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ManMulcahey

I get quiet when im really high. and around different people. This only happens when im really high, its like you said. Being really stoned kicks in some anxiety thing.

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