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poeticbliss

I made a post about a week or two ago about me quitting because of my parents finding my stash. I'm still going to stay clean until I move out but something has come up that really is disturbing me.

There were several things that my dad said to me that made me mad, but I was just happy he wasn't kicking me out, so I didn't argue.

1) My dad drinks about a 6 pack of beer every night, he's an alcoholic. (Who is he to tell me what to do when he has bad habits of his own).

2) My dad claims he doesn't like marijuana because he holds the law very highly. Once again false. My dad drinks and drives all the time. He always has a beer with him, and at least in Texas we have open container laws. Basically it's a legal to have an open container of alcohol, even if your not driving. I remember when I was little I saw him pouring his beer into a mug before going on a road trip. I asked him "isn't it illegal to drink and drive?" my dad just replied "not if I pour into a cup". Also my brother used to let my brother and his friends come over and get drunk. It's not illegal in Texas for him to let my brother drink but it is for him to let those other underage ones too. He doesn't hold the law highly at all, it was just a blank statement.

3) This is the new information that is driving me crazy. My parents made me feel horrible about lying to them. I had to sit through a 45 min lecture about honesty. Well my mom likes to hide my drum sticks from me cause I tend to bang on everything and she doesn't like dents on the kitchen table. So I was looking for them in their room, and in my moms drawer was a pack of Kool Filter Kings. That's when it all dawned on me. We have an ash tray in the back yard, that gets full and dumped every few days. No one in our house smokes. My parents bathroom always smells like smoke, my older brother used to smoke so my mom used to claim she dumped the ash in the toliet. Well I'm the only child left at home and from time to time it smells like ash. So I check the pack of cigs again today, to find that there are only 3 left (it was a full pack the first time I found it). How can they preach honesty to me when my mom sneaks around in the same way I did?

Any opinions?

Edit: Oh yea and I had suspected for a long time that my mom smokes cigarettes, I've even asked her before and she flat out told me no.

 

JPtheMT

I can see where you're coming from but you still live under their roof and you are their responsibility. Regardless of their own habits you still need to obey them until you're 18 or get emancipated Being forced to quit smoking weed until you move out isn't the end of the world, there are kids out there without parents or with parents who beat them and use off topic drugs in front of their kids. I wish now that I had listened to my parents more often than I did, but my dad is a dickhead who cheated on my mom several times and just kicked me out of his house to live in my car because of my dog.

Darque Pervert

I can understand how you're upset at your parents for acting like hypocrites.
However, regardless of the sincerity of their rationale and/or excuses, you are still their responsibility until you turn 18. As such, you have to live by their rules until you turn 18 and/or move out of their home.
Whether or not your dad is a hypocrite doesn't change the fact that it's his home and he is your caregiver. As such, you have to play by his rules.

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O High O

Make your mom quit smoking or kick her out the hizou'..

I'd confront your mom & dad. I believe what they're doing, is trying to protect you so you don't make the same mistakes they have, but they're still being hypocrites. They still won't let you toke, but maybe they'll try to change their behavior so they can be better parents to you.

My next hit is for you! haha

steakii

If i were you confront them about the cigarettes, see what they say. And the time has kinda passed for you to call your dad on drinking and driving.

 

poeticbliss

I understand the whole "he pays all the bills so that gives him the right to be an alcoholic prick", hence why I said I'm still quitting. My main concern is weather I should confront my mother or not?

titty

I would say confront her, but don't push her to far on the subject, she may feel guilty about her honesty speech and talk to you about it, but I say if she still denies smoking then don't push the subject, that'd most likely just piss her off

bananahands

basically confronting them will only end up getting in a fight and do you really want to do that?

poeticbliss

My father and I don't speak any more. He keeps on holding my car over my head, threatening to take it away. I always tell him I honestly don't care, but it's starting to get annoying. I'm saving my money to buy my car from my dad so I can have the title and put his control over me to a rest. Me, my gf, and my best friend are moving to Austin in the summer so basically I'm leaving and never looking back. No contact with either parent, our whole relationships are just based on abuse and lies (a lot more then I've shared in my post). I just need to get away.

steakii

Thats an interesting solution to your problem.