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troublemaker_42

I disagree. I'm married, so that may play a role in my feelings, but cheating isn't something I'd take lightly, regardless of circumstances. I took a vow to be faithful, and thats what I plan on doing. I expect no less from my partner. If I didn't think I was capable of it, I'd have never said "I do" and the same goes for her. To me, love means you care about the person enough that you wouldn't want to hurt them...and cheating definitely hurts. I've had meaningless sex in the past, and to me, it was nothing close to what I have with my wife. Sex is better physically, emotionally, and psychologically when you actually love the peson you are with. Other sex might feel good, but in no way does it compare. In all honesty, sex with anyone else would weird me out at this point. Sex-wise, I belong to my wife, and vice-versa. If you cannot commit to a relationship 100% in every aspect possible, you have no business entering a marriage, IMO. I'm a firm believer in marriage, and I'm disgusted by the divorce rates I see. People need to fucking learn everything there is to know about their partners BEFORE making that commitment. I've only been married four years, but I've been with my wife 9. We were engaged for a LONG time before actually getting married, because we wanted to be absolutely sure we weren't getting into something we weren't ready for. I can safely say that was among the smartest decisions we ever made. So, I can honestly say, no, I don't cheat on my wiofe, nor do I want to or have any desire to. Cheaters and cheating suck, and are a cancer to relationships. Cheatrers generally deserve what they have coming to them, and most eventually have karma piss all over their lives in the end.

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iloveunot

yeah tm... marriage is way different than just dating, and i do agree with you, everything you said about it....
i dont think people should get married unless they feel how you do.... it is a commitment youre making to someone for the rest of your life.... and marriage might not be for everyone, or they havent found the "right one" yet...
marriage wasnt really in any of my thoughts there in my post.... its something on a completely different level than just dating... just like you said you shouldnt get married unless you can commit 100% in every aspect possible...
but then again there are those married swingers so like vicki said... unless your into that lol

troublemaker_42

Exactly....I was one of those people who swore to anyone who would listen that I wasn't the "marrying type". I didn't see the point of limiting yourself in that way, let alone the challenge of finding someone I could tolerate on a daily basis that could also tolerate ME. However, I was lucky enough to find someone that changed my mind, and theres not a moment's doubt that I found "the one" for me. Now, I can't imagine life without her, and attempts to remember life before she entered the picture just remind me of how empty things were back then. My wife truely is my best friend, and I'm as lucky as anyone could be to have her by my side

Durden

I've never cheated and I honestly feel I can say I never will. As much as it sucks, I can go long periods of time without sex or even making out if that's what I have to do. I get into relationships not to have a girlfriend and someone to fuck, I'm into more serious shit. If I'm in a serious relationship with someone, I'm not going to fuck around or do anything to hurt them or jeopardize it. Even if I could get away with it, why? I'll just use my hand and pirated dvd porn if thats what I have to do until I see them again. It'd eat me up inside the rest of our relationship if for some reason I did.

The way I see it, if you can cheat on someone in a serious relationship, you're probably with the wrong person. Most other people seem to be rabbits though, so I guess I'm weird.

JohnBoySmoker

Good relationships are based on honesty and mutual respect. Once you cheat, both those characteristics are gone.

 

Snipe¤Star

if you read the post you quoted, you would see that what you said goes hand in hand with what i said.

i havent cheated on a girl since i was 16 (hello! 16 year olds dont generally make mature decisions). i also noted that i havent cheated on a girl since then, even if i've been cheated on. as you grow up you learn the importance/satisfactoin of being the better person. future relationship partners will respect you more if they see you stay faithful even to someone who is unfaithful, instead of looking down on you knowing youre willing to cheat under the right conditions...

personally, i dont feel i was totally wrong. i never cheated on a girl who didnt cheat on me, and although i am admitting as a man (now) that my decisions were maliciously guided, i still hold up the idea that if i hurt someone, i never hurt someone who diddnt deserve it. i have never been unfaithful to someone who didnt deserve it.

JohnBoySmoker

An eye for an eye, right? In that situation, you can take the high road and walk away knowing you're the better person in the failed relationship or you can take the low road.

Snipe¤Star

i never said it was right- i felt that it wasnt totally wrong. cheating on someone who is absolutely faithful and loyal to you is disgusting. cheating on someone who cheats on you, or treats your badly, is not quite as vile. again, not saying its right

also i never said that i thought of myself as the better person, except only in the regard that now as a more mature person i can see the futility and err of acting out on negative emotions.

JohnBoySmoker

It's still an eye for an eye. When you decide to cheat on someone because they cheated on you, you only lower yourself to their level. In the end, you're both wallowing in the same vileness. Whatever moral ground you had was lost.
Once cheating is discovered, you now know that the other person in the relationship no longer values it in the same manner as you do. Cut your losses and leave as they have emotionally done.

imFADED

No. You said you would not cheat unless they cheated on you. And I said that 'revenge' which is what you are doing, is immature.

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